Help Me Get Pregnant

I had a long term battle with infertility, about 5 long years to be precise.  It all began with expectation you see, because of my cultural influence, it is expected that the bride conceives within 2 years of marital life. Hence, during the first 2 years of my marriage, I found the expectation quite pressuring, without going into too much details. All this meant I needed to find a way to help me get pregnant.

It was truly an exhausting initial 2 years for my husband and me as we struggled with married life, careers and of course finding ways to help me get pregnant right away. We consulted with fertility experts and doctors and found that there was actually nothing physically wrong with the both of us.  The verdict was that we were just fine and only needed to relax and reduce the anxiety level.  Not easy to stay relax, when you want something so bad.

So what we did was to take the advice given onboard, and decided to really make the most of life. We had vacations together, climbed the ladder of success in each of our careers and decided to invest in properties. When we got to our fourth year together, there was still a missing piece, we knew we wanted little feet walking through the house, we felt that we would give anything to hear a baby laugh, cry; you name it all the things that come with having your own child. Could it be possible to try and conceive? Were we ready to go through the emotional pain of failure?

In actual fact unlike some that may be unable to afford the medical verification needed to ascertain everything was OK. I was lucky in the sense that we had all the means to undergo more extensive tests, physical exams, lab findings, etc. And once again everything was fine; we were both healthy. I took solace in reading materials about pregnancy and infertility and was glad that we were not alone. Many are also asking for help in getting pregnant. There were so many techniques and strategies available in books, e books, online articles and forums that we investigated. Although some seem bogus and weird even for a couple like us to try, there were some that we found interesting enough to try. They were mainly well researched techniques and we took the plunge in trying them out. They worked out very effective with our situation and here are some techniques that were effective:

1. The best advice I received to help me get pregnant was to know my most fertile days. I was told it was useless trying to conceive with every available chance you had, since it will ultimately become a chore. A woman’s fertile days are anywhere before or after day 14 of her menstrual cycle. During these days her body undergoes changes that can determine right away if she is fertile. It is during these days that she is ovulating and ready to become pregnant if fertilization is successful. From my experience, we tried harder to conceive during the fertile days with special precautions on what to eat, wear add taking added care on any and everything that would reduce the odds of conception.
2. I found out that a woman’s body can actually become ready to conceive by becoming healthier with the ideal weight, proper diet, enough sleep and becoming stress-free. It was an absolute fact that on the first 2 years of our marriage, stress was the deciding factor of our fruitless efforts.  Do you know why we came to this conclusion, it was simply because when we relaxed more and applied the techniques and knowledge, it was not too long that we learnt I was expecting when we least expected it.
3. I had to quit some of my favourite things to make room for pregnancy. Caffeine from coffee is my drug; I would consume cupfuls of coffee in a day to keep me going. I found out through an online article that caffeine can greatly decrease a woman’s ability to conceive and so does alcohol and smoking. I had to say good bye to tea and caffeinated drinks as well since these drinks contain significant amounts of caffeine too. I choose to drink milk instead since a medical expert once said that milk with folate will boost your chances of getting pregnant and also help when you fall pregnant.
4. I had more sleep than ever before. The 4 year climb to the top of the corporate ladder paid off; I had my own personal secretary to make decisions while I was gone or when I was running late. I finally removed the stress of making it early to the office and the massive deadlines during weekends which made me sleepless and tired. I was able to get more sleep during the weekends making me healthier and alert. With complete sleep, I had no stresses, tensions and worries making me more ready to get pregnant right away.
5. What I used to clean my vagina was also killing my husband’s sperm, so I found out! I was using all kinds of products to keep me clean and sweet smelling all day long but these products had harsh chemicals and scents that were literally decimating the sperm population faster than you can spell fertility. To help me get pregnant, I resolved to use vaginal douches, washes and cleansers that are pH balanced to preserve the ideal environment for sperm to thrive. Aside from this, I also found out that my husband may also be killing his sperm as well. Wearing briefs instead of loose boxers make the scrotum (where sperm is stored) move closer to the body and the body heat causes the sperm to die out. Sperm must not only be numerous but also motile and healthy to survive its journey towards the egg.
6. I have also done a great deal of research regarding herbal remedies and natural techniques for infertility and I am glad to report that most herbs really do have a positive effect on a male and female’s fertility. It is important however to determine the ideal natural remedy to use that will not cause any adverse reaction to any medication you are currently taking.

With my careful research and by following these techniques to help me get pregnant, I was finally able to conceive and now have a beautiful one year old baby girl! She was the missing piece that we were looking for and I must say, we were glad we prepared all that we can for her and that I actually looked for ways to help me get pregnant. We are now finally complete!  Some of the resources that helped are in the useful resource links.